Yesterday I sat in the park and watched people pass by.  In this advanced world people have no time for each other.  The coldness in people’s eyes and the body language was very obvious.  It seemed that eye contact and a smile were something that could give an allergy. I have said "good morning" many times to people and had a blank look in return or a look as though they were saying "is she mad?" but I always say to myself, "its not your fault" and don’t feel hurt.  I will never stop saying  "good morning" ,"good evening" ,"hello", "thank you" "please " or "have a nice day" to people when I meet them. i.e  :bus drivers, ticket collectors, shop keepers, postmen, or people I have to interact with.  The day I stop doing this is the day I know my spirit will be dead.  I was brought up to show kindness and it can never change.

In this society, there used to be that friendliness and calls of "morning " but not any more, even the thought of your arm touching someone in a bus and train gives one the shivers.  Why?  Humans are meant to have contact with each other.  We are meant to have care and consideration for each other but all that is gone.  Keep an animal in a cage with no love, care and attention and it will turn on you. Is that why there are so many dysfunctional people around? Because no one cares, not even even to say hello?

You may even live in the same block with ten other people and I bet the only ones who talk to each other are those over the age of 70 or children under the age of 10. Some adults wait until Christmas before contacting a parent or family member or worse still just send a card to them.  What is the cost of picking up the phone and saying "I love you" to a parent or family member or just asking how they are? We are losing it!!!!!!!

Parents leave children all day in school, with nannies, with child minders and sometimes you can see them going home around 6pm with their kids. How much time would they have spent with them the whole week?  Is making money more important that spending quality time with your kids?  They didn't ask to be born, we brought them into the world and the least we can do is give them our love and attention.  They are on loan to us for 18 years, after that they will leave or become responsible for their own lives so while we have them, give them care and love to the fullest. 

If we cut down on our material needs and unnecessary expenses like new clothes every time, new furniture, the latest car, modern  gadgets, expensive toys and games and spent more time with our kids ,we would see the difference and they would appreciate it. Rewarding a child with your time is worth more than just putting another gift in their hands.

 Children brought up in a brand name conscious atmosphere tend to be the unhappiest (even though they would not admit it). I know that peer pressure is to blame sometimes but I have seen kids who don’t care if they wear certain brands or have certain games and things because they have attention, love and care from parents who don’t put so much emphasis on material things even though they could afford them, but who spend quality time with them. Children from a caring home tend to have less social problems and pass on their confidence to their own children.